19 years ago today, we got engaged - Aahhhhhh!! I am sure many people thought that we were totally and utterly mad getting engaged!!
You see, for those of you that dont know, Kristian lived in Denmark and I lived in Northern Ireland. We met at a conference in England. I fell for his smile, and the fact that he just seemed like a really nice guy. Off course my crazy friend Rhoda (and a pile of other crazy irish people) started keeping me going about him, and as if that wasnt bad enough they teased Kristian about me (and they didnt even know him!)They were forever trying to get us together, and because of that I was forever staying out of Kristians way!
On the last evening, my crazy friend Rhoda (yes - its the Rhoda that also blogs!) went to Kristian and gave him my address.(without me knowing!!) She told him to write to me, then come to Ireland and fall in love with me and marry me. (You have a lot to answer for Rhoda!!)
So when he got home from the conference he wrote me a letter. I was soooo surprised to get a letter from him. He confessed that he really wanted to talk to me at the conference, but didnt dare. So we started to write letters.
Kristian was better at speaking english than writing it, so he suggested we make tapes to each other (yeah, it was the good old days - we used tapes!). So we did. Through the tapes we started to get to know each other and I was starting to fall in love. ("Lucky" for me - he was feeling the same!) After 3½ months of making tapes Kristian invited me to Denmark. We just had to meet face to face. Looking back I cant believe I went. I was soooo nervous getting off that plane to meet him.
Well, we hit it off. He was soooo easy to talk to and we had the same sense of humour. It felt like I had known him forever. (Things were good!)
I had also been praying about all of this (cause the situation looked impossible - he lived in Denmark after all!) but God had shown me through different Bible verses that Kristian was the one for me.
24 hours after arriving in Denmark Kristian asked me to marry him. I said yes!! - then we thought, " this is crazy, maybe we should wait and really think about it!" We needed to be sure it really was what we both wanted. So we waited - 3 days!!!!! haha
Monday 23rd October Kristian went over to the CEF office to sleep. (I was staying in his wee house across the road.) What I didnt know was that when he got to the office he rang his cousin Jacob and had a chat.
Jacob had, at one time, worked in a jewellery shop and so he had some rings in a bank box. One of those rings Kristian really liked. He had always said if he married an english/american girl he would give her this ring. (In Denmark you dont give diamond rings for engagements. You buy a wedding ring and wear it on your left hand and then change it over to the right hand when you get married.) So Kristian rang Jacob to see if he could collect the ring from the bank box, so he could give it to me. Jacob had already been to the box that day and got the ring out! He had had a feeling that something like this would happen! (Wow) Then they prayed that as an extra confirmation that Kristian was doing the right thing, that the ring would fit me perfectly! If it didnt Kristian would wait and not marry me.
Tuesday 24th October Jacob came to dinner. I had been out shopping and when I got back to the office the boys were acting funny. Kristian said we should go over to his wee house and Jacob would come later. There he gave me the ring. I loved it and was babbling away a mile a minute about it fitting or not fitting and that if it didnt fit we could get it made to fit. Kristian was very quiet. I then tried it on and said "It fits perfectly! you´d think it had been made for me!" (I knew nothing about the prayer!)
At this Jacob came in. Kristian just said "It fits" and then the two of them went wild!! Jacob did handstands across the floor (hilarious!) Kristian and him were hopping around like two mad men!! Finally they let me in on the secret!
So that night I really did feel like Cinderella, only it wasnt the shoe that had to fit but the ring. Wonder what I would be doing now if the ring hadnt fitted and we didnt get married. (Now there´s an interesting thought?!)
Tonight we celebrated our engagement with the most delicious meal. We didnt want to go out to a restaurant, so we fed the kids first and then they disappeared to their rooms and Kristian and I had a lovely 3 course meal by candlelight.